It is obvious that we have communication problems. I open my mouth and she gets defensive. Im a people pleaser by nature so I hate to get her upset but everything about me frustrates her right now.
Now she says that if the house doesnt sell by oct she will have to move back in because she wont be able to afford her apartment. The thought of that is paralyzing me right now.
I will not be able to co-habitate in our currant sitch. I do not want phones to ring and overhear conversations etc...I will also assume it would be very bad for D3.
Everything happens for a reason - damned if I can figure out why
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Hi PS, just caught up on your sitch, and I know it's hard to have a house on the market and no offers. Best of luck with that!
Also, have fun in Boston! H and I went in 2011 and had a ball - was a short trip but would love to go back one day (hopefully with H if things work out!).
Best wishes!
Me: 27 H: 27 Together: 11, M: 3 S 2 BD: 06/24/13 Living together H: EA - unknown current status Read: DB, 5LL (slowly reading DR) Back and forth we go...
OK... If this is her truth... and you are assuming...
Originally Posted By: Positivespin
everything about me frustrates her right now.
Then I would think this would not be an option for her...
Originally Posted By: Positivespin
Now she says that if the house doesnt sell by oct she will have to move back in because she wont be able to afford her apartment. The thought of that is paralyzing me right now.
Does she WANT to come home? As strong as you've gotten (or are projecting with your perfection of AsIf!) ego and pride can make it difficult for WAS's to return. Excuses... well money is always a good one to get back in the home and save face while doing it.
Change the lense on your goggles in your interactions with her. Have you ever been driving someplace and drove right past it because you were thinking too much?
The question is... Spin, has YOUR intended destination changed on this journey? What do YOU want friend?
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
I 100% want my family back. I do not want a "transition period" where she is in the house and out all night. That would be very damaging for me.
I like your angle of looking at this however, my wife has zero emotion. SHE is completely capable of moving back in and keeping on with OM. In fact, she wouldnt understand why I would have a problem with it.
remember she invited the guy she was previously having an affair with over for christmas with my family. After I confirmed the affair and was upset by it she said "Its not like we had sex in the house that day".
I LOVED the fact that I could never figure her out. With DB its a royal pain in the ________
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
This morning at 430 am I woke up and did my exercises then I got in my car........ And I bought a new backpack .
I needed one to go on my journey
When you travel, even a short distance, you are given the opportunity to intersect with others in their own journeys . That is what I was able to do today. I met 2 unbelievable individuals whose personalities drew me in. Thankfully, they allowed me to hang with them for a few hours........
Guys, I was soooooooo the guy that others wished they could be .
It was so fun hanging at the bar on a hot day in Boston at a table where if the 12 yo waiter was asked for a glass of water by the ladies he would do so post haste. I just giggled.
The two of you are AWESOME..... As a member of the male species letme just say once again.....your men are dumb $&@?s!
I'm on a train - back to reality. Getting a life is fun- cant wait to do it again:)
P.S. I told you my sister was an awesome wingman......lol
Thank you again
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
" Daddy, I didn't get cream cheese in my hair, I'm a big girl!"
D3 and I were having brunch at our normal joint with our friends " the regulars" when she busted out this line. The group just died laughing.
There is the local policeman, the police k9 trainer, and the ofg cyclist along with the other assorted cast of characters that make up our neighborhood eclectic bakery's 7 am crew. We stop on our bike ride to refuel our souls.
" Laying down roots" are what some would call it. The act of daily or weekly rituals or yearly traditions. Memories, they say these things are good for our children. With a flighty WAW or MLC spouse -these things become even more important.
Mommy likes to "hand off" D3 when it's " my turn to take her" . These terms and phrases make me sad. My family is awesome- and the W is missing out!
I hear the church bells chime 11times. Goodnight, hope you all had as great a weekend as I............
Let's kick some a$$ this week!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Sounds like Boston was the place to be Friday! Great that ya'll got to GAL together!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
