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[Not Quitting]

Planet, I know it was and is H's choice. But I also know he isn't truly happy in the sitch. I know him well enough to know that. But like they say, he made his bed let him lie in it. The only thing I can do is live my life in such a way as maybe one day he'll realize what he's giving up but if he doesn't so that I will be a better person in myself.

I don't intend to give up on my marriage yet and he knows that. He also knows that I can't promise that will always be the case. He has said that he knows I may decide that I've had enough. But for now he says he still wants to try and that's fine with me. I'll keep DBing and improve myself regardless. I know it's going to be a long hard process but I've never been a quitter. A lot of couples would have split after going through what we did in the first two years of marriage but we survived and got each other through a really rough time. I didn't quit on him then and I'm not ready to now.

I'm glad I finally found this forum. It's been really helpful, sometimes in just making me feel better about myself. The first forum I found after BD was specifically a MLC forum - I still believe that H is right in the middle of a full blown MLC - but it was so full of bitter, disgruntled women with no intention of saving their marriage or encouraging anyone else to do so. If I'd stayed there I'd probably have joined their train of thought. The people on this forum are the opposite - even those whose marriages aren't looking so viable.