"I spend more time with my Ds. I help out with D4's school work. I read them their books. I bathe them. I fed them. I even spend most weekend nights in their room. D3 wakes up often so i have to be there. I take them to the park alone. Started with the mall too. I play with them and my kids demand that I do, I just can't get away even if I wanted to. I'm learning to do all of this without W. Some of those are my 180."

^^^these are great 180s keep it up. You sound more the responsible parent to me and the more I wonder why you gave your W full custody.

"I should not allow W taking the girls out whenever OM is involved? I dont even know when he's involved and she's not telling but I think it's weekly now"

So is this ok with you or not? It was "ridiculous" to you on the other post. I gave you my POV on this but the choice is yours of course.

me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.