wbw, Funny you should ask about their relationship. They don't tell him how they really feel. They just tell him they want him to be happy but in reality they are upset. The youngest d16 would not speak to him after she found out about the a but right now she can be bought and h will buy them.
It's funny. I don't think he wants a d. But I also know he is not ready to give up ow. He got upset yesterday because he said he doesn't feel loved by the kids and he remarked how he does everything for them. What he doesn't see is they want HIM. They want his attention. He blames me for making him be the one to move out of the house. I always tell him it was his choice and of course that just starts another argument.
Just keep working on you. The kids helped me get through this because I knew a d would not be good for anyone so I stood for as long as I could but it is getting harder and harder because I miss the companionship something awful. I have been lonely for a while. My kids are older and have their own things to do. I have GAL things but having a relationship is different in my opinion. I have spent over half my life with h and I miss that.
He definitely sees my changes but he isn't convinced they're here to stay and he is addicted to ow I think. Not to mention he is still really confused.
Does your h talk to the kids? My h still talked to the kids but more now than before. Do your kids know about ow? I didn't want mine to know but h told them.
Keep giving your h space. It is hard to detach too much when their are kids involved. I, like you am taking care of the house and most of the stuff with the kids. H always says "that was your choice". It was and I don't regret staying in the house with the kids.
wbw you can do it. Dig deep for patience. There are a lot of people who were able to stand longer than I did.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
