Need help detaching

[lost_hope]

We got into huge fight. It's like he wants to keep reminding me that I'm going to be on my own. Thanks a- hole! I will be able to fully detach once were not living together 24-7. Just a few more weeks.

I also don't know when I should start discussing the terms of the D. My original plan was to wait until new year but that's bc I wanted to see if he'd change. Now unless its a drastic change (which it will never be) I'm not sure waiting does any if us any good. I suppose I could separate the finances and start with the 50-50 allocations right after the house closes (too messy and complicated to do now with all the costs were incurring now). Then we can take the few months leading up to new year to discuss terms (trying to avoid Ls if we can) and then still file in the new year. On the other hand there's no better way for me to show him I've moved on that to file for D. He'd be really shocked if i did that. Plus he said he's in no rush to S bc he is not ready to get remarried yet (translation, he wants to lerp me in limbo like he did last time). It still takes a year to finalize where we live so we still have time to work out terms (or even R).