Today as a good day I cleaned all the walls and scrub the whole bathroom and The kitchen floor. Just waiting for the H to drop off my boys home. Next weekend my plan is to tackle both bedrooms. Then my home will be nice and clean now I'll have to keep it clean after that.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
whoop whoop, go you I'm so proud of you I wish I could say the same, but I've not done anything much around the house I've been really tired today as I was up until 1am last night.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well the family reunion is coming up very soon and I have just decided to back out due to I will be so uncomfortable being there since I'm no longer part of the family even though we are still legally married. And plus I know H will being OW with him to it so that everyone will get use to her being part of his new family. He is trying to get everyone to except her has part of the family now. From what I'm being told by MIL and SIL. The one thing that I still have is a small support from SIL she will not except OW as part of the family until H and I are legally D. MIL told me that H wants her and OW to meet very soon cause he is now with her and he wants the family to except her as part of the family. Now I will have to tell MIL that I will not attend the family union picnic cause im no longer part of the family and i know she will yell it me for this but that is how I feel.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
It hasn't been a week since H moved out and already H and OW is trying to get her interduce to everyone in the family. What the heck I'm already getting replaced in the family. Yes I'm really hurt about this they don't care that they are hurtibf my feelings right now. You know what I'm going to let it go and see what karma will do to them. Yes right now I'm so mad about what I'm hearing from family members that are learning on what is going on. Why are H and OW doing this its like they don't care how this is making me feel knowing that they are pushing her to take my place in the family already.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Sorry this is happening Kelela. If H is bringing OW around, his family has no choice but to be kind and courteous adults to her.
That doesn't mean they like you any less, but I guess in situations like this everybody if forced to accept certain things as no one can control your H's actions. Life has to take it's course and your H will learn his lesson soon enough.
Continue to be positive and work on your goals in spite of.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
so sorry this is happening K I don't blame you not wanting to go to the family reunion, I wouldn't want to either! When my H introduce hos OW to my MIL, she didn't say anything to me at the time, but when we'd got back together she told me she didn't like her. She wondered why my H was with her as she was just not his type and taller than him. Just let it go for now. I know it hurts very much, but like mimi says your H will soon come to his senses. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
180 OK I will let it H go up far its been two whole days I haven't called or text him at all. Yes I do think about him every second of the cause I really miss him so much but I have not even tried to call or text him any all. I'm going to keep doing this for the rest of The week and I hope that it will be so much easier next week I hope to stop thinking about H all together soon. So I will gw able to live on.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
K,I still think about my H. It's ok to think about them occasionally but not so that it stops you from moving on with your life. It is still early days for you, so no-one is expecting you to be doing much GALing or 180ing at the mo, but you are doing really well not contacting him Believe it or not, it is less stressful when you don't contact your WAS! You may not think so at the mo, but when they don't answer their phone or get back to you for a day or two then it becomes stressful! I hope you are coping ok being on your own with your two boys There'll be lots to organise especially with the new school term, so that will keep you busy Have you got any plans this week? I've got a bit of paperwork that I keep putting off, lol. I've had a busy day today, so I'm a bit tired at the mo I'm taking my son to a youth club tomorrow and I'm stopping over with him to help out tomorrow and Thursday. Friday it's doctors and shopping, Saturday - nothing planned at the moment but I'm sure to find something and Sunday it's Church.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Kel, it really hurts to have H do something like that, I understand. It's okay to feel what you feel, but the trick is not to hang on to it.
i found that everytime H did something that hurt me, it was easier to move a little further away...detach. But bitterness, anger and hurt hold you back if you hold on to them
I'm so proud of you 
I've been really tired today as I was up until 1am last night.