The circumstances under which he BD was following immediately after another fight. He has never give me any reason to not trust him prior to that moment. Now, I'm not completely dismissing the idea that he has found someone since we've been apart. I have no idea what he's doing over there, and he no longer wears his wedding ring so he's not exactly promoting his marital status (Although I don't wear mine either). Prior to our marriage I had left him after a fight for a couple of days, in which he immediately started texting his ex and promoting a sexual conversation. It stopped when I came back, but it leaves me with the idea that he could run back to an old flame over this situation.
We do share an apartment, and both our names are under the lease. I was going to volunteer to move, but after some thought I realized I shouldn't have to move if I'm not the one wanting to give up on the relationship. I am no where ready to give up on this marriage, and another person wouldn't be a deal breaker at this point. But, I have mixed feelings, as in maybe a separation will help us. I also know after starting to work on myself, that this is a path I would like to continue regardless of what happens in our marriage. I have no idea what I'm doing to be honest....
