Hi dmr, I haven't read your whole situation yet, just the last few replies. Does it bother you when she comes over or are you ok with that? As Mr. Bond had stated you might want to set boundaries.

M: 8 yrs T:14
Twins:7 S:5
BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013
Mar/Apr/May: MC
June: "living in limbo"
Sept 12: H moves out
Oct 20: reconciling
Jan-Feb 2014:MC
Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.