Don't worry about what everyone else is telling you to do.
If/when you decide that you're done, that's when you'll ask him to leave.
The last thing you want to do is follow everyone else's advice and look back and realize you wanted something else.
uRworthy just made a great post about this in this forum a few hours ago, so you might want to check it out.
I'm struggling with the same issues and I've been divorced for a month now, so I wish I could give you some more hope or better advice.
M36 XH34 M-5 T7 4/11 H confused 5/11 ILYB 6/11 OW discovered 7/11 I move out, OW over 5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file 9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3 3/13 H/OW break up H files 4/13 D 6/18/13