Hi girlz thanks for stopping by. You are still in the world of hurt and pain stage - which is horrible, and thank goodness I have finally got out of that hole. My goodness it takes time. I don't feel badly disposed to xh, and am mostly fine. I would be lying if I said I was 100% happy all the time, but then if I were they would probably lock me up!!
Soooooo, I am afraid it is true and detachment is the name of the game. If they get sick we can do nothing, if they do crazy and hurtful things - not our problem. Do not try and own their problems I suspect we all did too much of that during our marriages. it is time for them to take the consequences of their daft actions
what my xh does now bores me, it isn't adult and it isn't interesting. While you are dealing with it up close and personal it is hurtful but with the lens of distance and time, it is rather pointless, definitely laughable and somewhat pathetic. These are men in late middle age for goodness sake.
What they do is of no interest to the world, and we need to take the high road. I had a dream last night about xh and a friend said (in the dream) 'You know he always was a bit of an (expletive deleted) And I remember thinking, 'He really was'. I loved him but he could be a real pain.
Try and let go of these sad and destructive people and look at the blessings in your life. They are broken and they are trying to take you down with them. Hang on and dig yourselves out. You need to live even if they decide to drown in the mire.
