It's football season-all is well

[reachingHigher]

NQ, I'm at a place where I'm not sure I'll be able to forgive w for the hurt she's caused to our boys. I pray that I can someday.

Don't even worry about this, Mm! It's a "feelings" thing. Picture W repentant and loving. Pic the old W mixed with a new maturity. Pic W reconnecting with you personally and rediscovering her love for life and the family. Can you really imagine NOT forgiving her? Keeping her in bondage of guilt the rest of her life? Of course not! You're not there yet so don't worry about it. I had all those same feelings yet feelings can change, as we all know.

I got some great advice in the archives as far as inviting spouses to some but not all activities. I'm convinced its crucial to allow the spouse to join in with the family at times, despite the pain to our own hearts.

What you CAN'T see is the agony your spouse is going through. They won't let you see or glimpse it right now. It will blow you away when you see it.

Just keep on doing what your doing. And give yourself lots of self-soothing. You need it.

Just my 2 cents .

rH