Thanks rH and NQ! I've done my best to keep things normal for the boys but sometimes question whether or not I'm preventing w from feeling the consequences of her decisions. Maybe I should tell her she's not invited at times.

NQ, I'm at a place where I'm not sure I'll be able to forgive w for the hurt she's caused to our boys. I pray that I can someday.

M - 42
W- 37
S's - 9,6
M-12
T-14
FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011
ILYBNILWY - march '12
FIL - died jan '13
W Moved out week later