New and need encouragement

[Not Quitting]

H is still stressing about MIL and has been drinking heavier than what has become his normal. Hospital has ruled out a few things but still don't know what is wrong with MIL. The only thing I can do is be there if he wants me to be.

One positive today. H found out S13 wanted to go to nearby amusement park while I'm on vacation this coming week. He asked if we would consider going over the weekend as he'd like to come along if that was ok. S13 was thrilled about spending extra time with his dad.

H took us both out for dinner last night and dropped H off at his place afterwards. It was the first time S13 had seen where H has moved to. We got shown around his room and had a quick visit with the friends he's living with. It was hard on S13 when we left. On the way home he said he wants his old dad back. I tried explaining that may never happen but that he has to remember that what is going on between me and H is in no way his fault and that regardless of anything else we both still love him.

H seems totally oblivious to the pain he is causing S13. And it hurts me, especially as H volunteered to be an at home dad when Our son was a baby as my salary was higher than his. Now S13 is lucky to see his dad for a few hours once a week. This weekend has been different - dinner last night, amusement park today and H is coming round tomorrow to help clear some garbage out of the garage - his idea.

At least S13 is oblivious to the fact there is an OW in his dad's life. And it was almost funny to see the look on H's face last night when H was trying to get S13 to comment on how pretty our server was. S13 stated "you're not allowed to do that when you're married, even if you're temporarily separated". H looked like he was about to choke. It could be very interesting if/when S13 finds out that his dad had a girlfriend while married. It seems my son has a firm belief in being faithful.