Don't come around here no more

[wishing, hoping]

AJ I can always count on you. I'm so glad you take the time to write to me. : )

Had a wonderful day with the kids. We got up, ate a quick breakfast and headed to the library for a free ice cream social. After eating our ice cream outside D picked out 9 books by her favorite author. Lol! S renewed his book which he has been too busy to read. After we left the library we headed to the grocery store which was having kids day. A free carnival with games and free lunch for the kids. The fire department, EMS and police department was there, they had a bounce house, face painting and other things. Kids got to hang out with friends and have lunch and snacks. Afterward we bought some groceries and headed to the thrift store to drop off some items. We stopped in and S found a shirt and a "man" bracelet, while D found a shirt and pants and a toy. All that cost me $11. We came back home, washed our fruit, made some cookies, rode bikes and scooters and took the dog to the dog park. Then we headed to the sport store to see what kind of shoes S wants for back to school. Then got a few more groceries and some puffy paint for D to decorate the shirt she didn't want to tie die. I made dinner of spaghetti and meatballs and a healthier version of chocolate gelato. Watched some tv and bed. I wish every day was like this, but oh well. Can't appreciate the good if you don't have some bad, right?

In better news, my lawyer spoke to the GAL and got to the bottom of some things. I really felt like the GAL was on H's side. My attorney explained that wasn't true. Of course, H has been twisting the GAL's ear with all kinds of stories. Many of which are not true. My attorney set him straight and gave him the real story. For instance, H told the GAL that one reason I need to leave is because I am living in "his house free of charge". Excuse me? Just for the record, I am on the title of that house. My mom gave us the $25,000 at closing so we could even move into the house because H misread the paperwork. And I am not living there "free of charge". I work ful time and my wages are directly deposited into the joint account along with H's. I may not make A's much money, but I still work and I still bring home the bacon. But looking back H always told me I needed to make more money and that I wasn't living up to "my true potential" (whatever that means). I told H money wasn't everything. I was happy with my job and taking care of my kids. And maybe we should live within our means instead of trying to get means to live at a certain threshold.

It all makes so much sense now. H had to go through this. I guess I should be surprised this didn't happen sooner. I wish I didn't have to go through it. Or my kids. That's the worst part. The kids. But I'm doing whatever I can to protect them.

H and OW deserve each other. He told the GAL that he was angry because my attorney and I stuck our noses in OW's custody case and "screwed it all up". My attorney explained we didn't have anything to do with her case not going her way. She had 50/50 placement with her ex. Meets some guy and decides she's gonna marry him and try to take the kids 150 miles away from everything they know and their dad as well? My attorney told the GAL there is no way the courts are gonna let her do that. We had nothing to do with that. And the GAL said, well, you are right about that.

My attorney told the GAL I have been looking at places and I have a list of items I want and I have my own marital settlement sheet to prove that I do want to move the case forward. And I do. But H doesn't. He just wants me out of the house and let the rest hang.

In other news, D lost her first tooth last night. She's so proud because she pulled it out all by herself. I'm glad I was here for that.

I also told H we can trade weekends so he can take the kids camping on his birthday. I told him if you want that weekend I will take this coming weekend (so I have two in a row) then he can have the 16th and 23rd since I have a prior committment on the 23rd. Then we will resume weekends as we previously had them. I was not going to let him trick me into losing Labor Day. I know that was up his sleeve. If he doesn't like my idea about trading, then he can forget about it. I also told him I still held my conviction that the kids and not to be around OW and her family. He is trying to wear me down.

Hopefully the good weekend will continue and I can get my bearings back. It's good when H is away. He's probably plotting against me some more. What happens when D is done and there's nothing to plot? No ploy? No games? Jo one to blame all your bad decisions on? Does the focus shift elsewhere to does it turn internally and they pop? Lol! Like a kernel of popcorn??

I know time is the answer. And I am starting to see how it isn't me. OW thinks she is special. She isn't. She's easy. And convenient. And a good target. Her karma is coming. She has no idea what she's in for, but I do.

WH