Figuring out the old and new life

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FY,

I agree with what the other posters said. Definitely depression and she's still very confused about just about everything. The statement about the house said volumes.

W: I'd like to get rid of stuff. My house is a mess and I can't keep up with it. It's just too hard to even think about working on it... I'd rather just go out and get my mind off of all this.

Then,

"I suppose I have to fix/figure out the old life before I can figure out the new one."

It isn't about the house, getting rid of her stuff, finding a bf, marrying too young, etc. She doesn't really want to do any of those things otherwise she'd be doing them, just like the rest of the mlcers! She's searching for something that she thinks is "missing" in her life right now. She is stuck because the fog is too thick. That's why she's looking to you to guide her or fix it....all of it. It must be a scary place for her to be. It's like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. She's scared and is looking for a way home but hasn't found the path. Her friends are doing their best (or maybe not) to help her find her way but they don't have the answers either. The answer is right there inside of her, she just has to look deeper to find it.

You are doing so well with this. I can tell from your posts, your patience and determination and the way that you communicate with her that you are putting your heart and soul into this and will be there for her no matter what. She knows that and if she didn't trust you, she wouldn't be so openly sharing her thoughts with you.

Keep bustin' my friend!