RL, H likes peace and quiet but he doesn't like it alone! Go figure. So I think he's mostly lonely for someone to talk to. Not sure why he doesn't call the ow to fill the socialization void.
On the insurance, I left the envelope on the counter where any mail that belongs to him is placed. He must have been so distracted by ME that he forgot to look for his mail. So there it sits waiting for him to come by again. I am guessing that the ow isn't gone for good and that she needs a break from the mice and him. Hey, maybe she's looking for new victim to sink her claws into closer to home. I'm not sure what the mice are all about, I've never had one in my home so maybe she should put down the box of Bon Bon's, get off her @$$ and do a little cleaning. LOL As well as stay out of the malls and help out around the house. I forgot to mention that when my h showed up here ready to call it quits a while back that was another one of his gripes. He is a neat and tidy person for the most part. According to him, he is taking care of most of the cleaning inside the house as well as everything outside the house. Oh yeah, and working 10 hours a day. He also complained about how she starts various projects, like painting and then never finishes. Prior to the blowout that they had, he made excuses for her. Wonder how long that will last?
Your comments around healthcare fraud are very interesting. I knew that there would be some sort of penalty, like losing your job and paying back the misused funds but civil action??? YEAH!!! Come and get her! I guess he's the one that they'd come and get. Maybe the wake up call that he needs. That he's NOT above the law and rules.
He also has secondary insurance through my old employer so he wouldn't be without insurance. I was covered under his insurance as well as our disabled daughter until he was laid off a year and a half ago. Because of her disability and the amount of hours that she's worked she gets money from social security as well as Medicare. I also kept her covered on my insurance.
We are both her guardians but I'm thinking that if something happened to me before him that I should take his name off of the Guardianship and put one of the other kids as her "stand by" Guardian. He can't even take care of himself, how will he take care of her finances and her emotional needs? Sorry, just thinking out loud there.
Yes, I've donned the T2 goggles, lab coat and have the clipboard in hand at all times when h is around. We know that we can't believe any of what they say so I listen to the words for clues but observing his behavior, body language etc. is what I pay most attention to. Even then it's hard to know what's real.
RL, I'm in a good place only because I'm doing my best to focus on myself and have carefully place him and his bad behaviors in a box with padded walls where I know he will be safe! I find that I have more strength mentally and emotionally when I'm only concerned with ME. There are times when I try to second guess and predict his future behavior but it truly is a waste of time because it will be what it will be and I want to be as prepared for either of the outcomes as best I can.
I am, by nature, an observer, a logical thinker and a data collector. Maybe something along the line of a female T2 with a ruffle-collared lab coat and pink clipboard. LOL Sorry T2 if you read this. There will never be another T2, male or female. You are a one in a million! Anyway, setting my emotions aside is a real effort for me but I can do that when necessary.
I'm happy to see that the toothbrushes are coexisting even if they are in separate glasses for the time being. That is such a crazy thing but also could be a good gauge of where he is mentally....think positive, that 's a good thing. You will know whether he's approachable or not by where the toothbrushes are in relation to one another! I'm not sure whether your h is going to get out of this country! Is he scheduled to the further testing here? I read on your thread that he wants to take care of his dental and a physical issues in the land of drunken Dr.'s and RT's. I hope he reads something on the internet that will change his mind. There has to be a site online that warns people of having medical procedures done over there. Find one and have someone send it to him anonymously! Or let him find out on his own.
Take care RL and enjoy the rest of your weekend
Me:57H:62 M:34T:35 2S,2D (grown nlah) BD:09/2012 visits M ow EA/PA?:10/2012 H moves out 06/2013
"Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace." -Dalai Lama
So there it sits waiting for him to come by again. I am guessing that the ow isn't gone for good and that she needs a break from the mice and him. Hey, maybe she's looking for new victim to sink her claws into closer to home. I'm not sure what the mice are all about, I've never had one in my home so maybe she should put down the box of Bon Bon's, get off her @$$ and do a little cleaning. LOL As well as stay out of the malls and help out around the house. I forgot to mention that when my h showed up here ready to call it quits a while back that was another one of his gripes. He is a neat and tidy person for the most part. According to him, he is taking care of most of the cleaning inside the house as well as everything outside the house. Oh yeah, and working 10 hours a day. He also complained about how she starts various projects, like painting and then never finishes. Prior to the blowout that they had, he made excuses for her. Wonder how long that will last? 