One giant leap forward! - Part 3

[T1000]

T,

Just catching up with you on the last few weeks..things sound like they are going well.

I am not going to be a downer but I am going to caution you that the reason your W is doing what she is doing is because of your behavior. You MUST take this slow. I think time spent together is great, and if sex happens, it happens. It is how you act after that will matter. You have to let her show you she really wants this to work before you jump back in 100% and give her whatever she wants.

Her text a few days ago about the kids and you not being there to help proves this. Fortunately you handled it correctly.

You are growing a lot and this is what will save your M.

Also, I am not a medical professional, but please be careful on the bipolar issue. I had two different friends diagnosed with it, that sure didn't seem it - they had normal, every day issues and reactions, and the medication has made them worse than ever. One friend is on permanent disability at 45 years old and she was really just an alcoholic when they diagnosed her as BP. They are very serious meds. Your W doesn't appear bipolar with what you have described but it sure seems like something psychiatrists are anxious to diagnose, and often incorrectly. People who are struggling are so happy for a diagnosis are often happy to go along with anything.

Hi LTH,

Thanks for your comments.

I agree, I have to stay on my course and not let any situations or changes in her behaviour lead to me dropping my guard like I have done in the past.

Normally on a day like today (after what happened yesterday) I would have been messaging her and even though I felt like it I haven't at all.
She ended up contacting me late in the day. We kept it brief.

In regards to the bipolar. I think, she thinks, she could be bipolar because her father is bipolar and some of her traits fit this.
I don't know if her father has been diagnosed or it's his opinion that he is.
It's all just a lot of opinions being thrown about right now. I appreciate your warnings and I will keep them in mind.

What makes you say she isn't bipolar from what I have said?