I understand I need to disengage and I feel I am working towards that. That is a good positive statement When your W was living with you, did she do all the organising and arranging things? If she did then I can understand how all of a sudden you are feeling lost as to what to do. I hope you don't mind but I've thought of another good idea for you. You could do some voluntary work as well as looking for a paid job. This will look good on your CV, gain you some experience in that line of work and sometimes you can get perks like travel paid for or courses you get sent on that further develop your qualifications and experience Have a look in your local newspaper to see what's happening in your area. There may be something in there that takes your fancy You still seem to concentrate too much on your W in your posts and not your GALs. I do understand how annoying it must be for you when you don't hear from your W, but things can only get better Go out and GAL and word may get back to your W on how you're getting on with things and not moping around If your W hears what you're doing at the mo, would it all be positive news or will it be more of the same old, same old? Don't deliberately tell a mutual family member or friend what you're doing as well. You need to be seen to be doing, not just talk. Remember actions speak louder than words
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
When your W was living with you, did she do all the organising and arranging things? If she did then I can understand how all of a sudden you are feeling lost as to what to do. 
