MLC changes the person. My W will not be like she was before. I can see that a new permanent part of her personality is going to be seeking excitement and adventure through sports/hobbies/activities and also having a very active social life. Hopefully it will come into balance and not be the dominating focus of her life as it now seems.
Having boundaries and maintaining them are good, but be careful not to go too far. If W feels tied down or that you have her on a short leash, she won't like it and WILL find a way to break free. It's a fine line that we must walk.
I know in my W's case, just knowing she has her freedom has allowed her to feel comfortable enough to stay. Every spouse and sitch is different... continue to take notes and do what works for you. Don't be inflexible or afraid to change things up when necessary. Show her love.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
