Figuring out the old and new life

[reachingHigher]

FY, you know your wife best, so, you do what you think is right.
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I think these talks with your w have helped, FY. I really do. I think perhaps you have given her some food for thought.

I am so hopeful for you two. I believe she can work through this.

^ ^ ^ ^ I agree 100%!!!

Your sitch and mine have more differences than just your W is at home. I think the difference in genders and what the spouse is looking for can also be very very different. And the force driving my H seemed to be his childhood issues of being controlled by his mother. So different from your W's issues.

I do think many things do appear the same in this MLC journey though. I applaud you, FY, as you have such a handle on balance, the delicate nature of how to relate to your W, your vision of the big picture now and in the future, and your ability to keep your emotions under control, as well as hold the standard in GAL activities! You are so awesome!

And I totally agree, "do what works"! I think you have been. I had many, many R talks with my H. More than I think is suggested here. They seemed to help in a lot of ways. Taking each other's temperature as it were, working though things. I like the "team" concept you portray. I felt that all along with my H although he didn't really always act like it. He was still connected by a thread and he didn't like it. Wanted to be totally free of me. But he couldn't, b/c he still loved me. I see that with your W, too!

Keep on being you, my friend, as uRw said