I get how hard it is. I have a hard time stepping forward with my X and we aren't even together...

.. but here's the thing... it has to be different than before. Girl I know you are hurt and I know how daunting the work that you have to do is....

but you must do it if this relationship stands a shot.

Next time you have a trigger.. don't run from him... run TO him.

I experienced this in Yosemite. I hit some nasty triggers and instead of running towards my friends.. I tried to "protect" them from my triggers.

This was a HUGE mistake! The moment I ran TOWARDS them.. was when my triggers went away and I could enjoy myself.

Now I know its different. I don't run towards my x.. but I am thinking that if she is showing my positive signs.. that maybe I should.....

... and I guess I'm challenging you to do the same. It's truly the only way to move forward and start building the trust in relationship.

Maybe sit down with him (when you're not triggered) and discuss it and what you would like from him.... then be brave enough to try it.

The worst that can happen is that he doesn't want to.. but at least you will then know what kind of relationship you have.


You ARE strong enough Vero. Step boldly.

(((( ))))

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.