"W also wanted to insert visitation restrictions upon my family but was denied by the L. His reason was the kids should have a healthy relationship with their extended family despite our D. I wouldn't have agree to this too."

Did you get a L? These agreements to me sound very one sided. Did u just said yes to all what your W proposed? Man maybe get L and see if you can still protect your rights.

How is the D process there in Malaysia? Here in the US,at least where I'm at, the initial consultation with L's are free. It sounded like you were very passive so not to upset your W. that's not healthy planet. IMO stop making a decision based on fear, you got to lose the fear.

But then again maybe this is what you want? Can you tell me what would've been your D agreement, what would've been fair to you?

me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.