One giant leap forward! - Part 3

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T,

Just catching up with you on the last few weeks..things sound like they are going well.

I am not going to be a downer but I am going to caution you that the reason your W is doing what she is doing is because of your behavior. You MUST take this slow. I think time spent together is great, and if sex happens, it happens. It is how you act after that will matter. You have to let her show you she really wants this to work before you jump back in 100% and give her whatever she wants.

Her text a few days ago about the kids and you not being there to help proves this. Fortunately you handled it correctly.

You are growing a lot and this is what will save your M.

Also, I am not a medical professional, but please be careful on the bipolar issue. I had two different friends diagnosed with it, that sure didn't seem it - they had normal, every day issues and reactions, and the medication has made them worse than ever. One friend is on permanent disability at 45 years old and she was really just an alcoholic when they diagnosed her as BP. They are very serious meds. Your W doesn't appear bipolar with what you have described but it sure seems like something psychiatrists are anxious to diagnose, and often incorrectly. People who are struggling are so happy for a diagnosis are often happy to go along with anything.