Went by Ws work unannounced to drop off some information on her business I was helping her with. Got very good eye contact, warm, no ice wall from what I could tell. Our little girlie (dog) was there and I had to stop and pet her, took my attention off W but I couldn't help myself. Pet the dog and she had her dog tag with my last name on it, she hasn't had this tag on in a long time.
I asked if W had some time and she said yes. I talked with her about the info I got her, how her reviews of the employees was (she was nervous about it), new business ideas she had, promotional ideas she had, and I was supportive and encouraging. Had PMA up and was looking good in my best suit and tie. She asked if it was a new tie, she has seen this tie many times, I don't get it.
Talked about the money tree I got her and how it was doing good, when to water, nurture etc. Talked about the dog and how her face was getting grey in the face and when she gets more grey in the face she will be old and W will be sad when she dies. Weird. She is only four, I joked about it. We laughed about my joke. We looked at her together like parents look at children.
Nicki, a girl who works for W and her now best friend, walked by and gave me a squeeze on the shoulders, was this because I didn't say hi to her or other signal? Weird. I told W how beautiful she looked and we made good eye contact, I told her I liked her makeup (big compliment), we talked and joked for a good five to ten minutes, didn't notice anyone around us until a customer walked in and broke it up.
She said I was sounding better, I've been sick, and asked about my trip to NY and I was the babbling brooke, opposite for me. I told her more details etc.
Positives are we had good eye contact, talked, connected, laughed. How come I can't help feeling negative about this interaction? Is it because there is a lack of pain and ice wall it feels weird? How come with all the good eye contact I still feel like this is a negative interaction? Anyone have experience here? Is it normal to feel nervous and weird after a good interaction?
