Wow Kml. Thank you for your thoughtful and thorough post!
I will copy it to a document to keep in case there is ever money to pursue your suggestions.
Right now none of us have health insurance, and none of us have money either so other than perhaps the books I don't know what options we could do.
S20's diet is awful. A lot of fast food, and he overeats. He claims he's allergic to apples, and generally avoids fruits & veggies. I have tried, especially of late, to always offer fruits and veggies with dinner, but S20 isn't interested. And he likes fried foods too .
S20 did not have a lot of sore throats as a child. I was lucky that all the kids were pretty healthy.
Neither S20 nor H display any of what I think of as OCD. There is not hand washing or light switch flipping.
I will look into the books! Thanks again for taking the time to post!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
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