"I gave away my share so my kids will not have to move. I don't think she can afford it. We jointly bought the place. She did put a lot more money into the renovations."

Are you still paying mortgage ? You gave away your share meaning you would have to move out in the event of D? IMO, reclaim your share. You are not a "guest" in this house you still co-own it.

It's not about winning planet, it's about finding you, your values, self respect and dignity. It's a realization that won't happen over night I get it. But start realizing.

me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.