Buddy, sometimes the grand gestures DO work. I've seen it first hand. Not on the bb, but with a real life friend.
This guy had pretty much ignored, insulted, yelled at (and got a lot of it right back), messed up...his W left.
It hit him about three days later...just what he'd lost.
He sat down and wrote a 40 page letter...from a man who'd never written one before...he laid it all out, how he saw that he'd hurt her, how arrogant and selfish he'd been, he said he prayed for a chance to just court her again, but that he understood if she never spoke to him again. He sent her favourite flowers.
He went to her family and FRIENDS in PERSON to apologize for having done so poorly as an H to her. That's when I hugged him, took a drive and gave him my copy of DR!
Now on the other hand, S, my pal Darkness (who was a fixture on the bb...sigh) made a few grand gestures, gifts which his W liked, but which she DID find pursuing. I don't believe they are back together.
What does your gut tell you on this? Weigh it out...
If you DO make a grand gesture (or the letter) and she seems uncomfortable and really NOT into the idea...can you handle it?
On the other hand...can you walk through this NOT having told her how you really feel, and then wonder what might have been?
