Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

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No problem Trent. I know what you are saying. I'm trying as hard as possible to GAL. And not backslide into my own ways. I was a little guilty this week of sticking around he house when he was here to help myself read his actions and words and give myself hope. Not very smart. But yesterday I left the house all day with the kids and when i got home he was in a great mood and grabbed me a kissed me like the old days....and he was happy. He got a few errands done around the house and worked out and he had a sense of happiness in him. Most I have seen in a week.

Today has been ok so far. We leave for our holiday today. He had to run out for a minute and he came and found me in the boys bedroom and gave me a kiss and said he would be back shortly. Feels like he is coming back to me. I'm trying to stay optimistic. He did say he had a other horrible sleep...which I'm trying not to analyze. And hope he just needs some days off with his family to brighten him up.

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I think some people like to talk about things as a way to help them work their way through it,
while other people like to talk about things after they've worked through it.

having an issue and needing help may be seen as a weakness,
having worked through an issue on ones own may be seen as a strength.

Thanks KenF...I feel like you hit the nail on the head. And I already knew the answer to this question because i know my H and how he deals with things. This shouldn't be a surprise to me. I guess I feel like our communication skills since our last split have gotten so much better and to a place I thought maybe he would talk to me now about this...but maybe not.

I'm feeling like day by day I'm getting a little more from him. More affection, more initiation on his part etc. I don't think "leaving" per say is on his mind at the time. My middle boy asked if we can watch him ref this winter and he said of course. He will get is tickets and we can all come watch him all winter....an up in the air WAS wouldn't talk like this would they?