"The boundaries right now is not allowing OM to my house. Not using my kids as brownie points to score. But he'll be around when I'm not at home and I won't be able to know until much later."

So did she buy your share out of the house? Is the house hers before you got M? Also why would you think using your kids as scoring brownie points? Planet these are your kids it's ok to take them out with you. This has nothing to do with your sitch take care of them, take them out..and no I'm not saying this to win your W. As a matter of fact, you need to get your focus on YOU and your kids.

me40; W43
M18; T~20
D18; S13 & S3
bomb 5/9/11
EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM

Separated 4/1/14

"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.