The apology was a big step imo. Some spouses NEVER get one.
By some of your other comments, she's still doing a lot of running, but is now starting to actually "think" about things. Its still very tenious, things could go either way, she sounds like she's becoming more comfortable with the idea of being on her own now. Its a double edged sword I guess, I was hoping that with the time out of the house, she could possibley discover that she missed you more. Just not enough time away. But its great that she admitted she'd be just looking for another you.
Im hopeful for you SA, really, your right a lot of positives, I just hope she can hold on. And pray you can stick to your guns and let the process play out further.
I think its important, and I don't know how to pull it off, but she says she could live on her own, but still be with you eventually. That it doesn't come off as "I can do what I want, and you'll be still waiting for me" or cake eating. How do you say im not waiting forever, but I've come this far, why not give it more time. Do you have a threshold, date, or circumstance without making it sound like an ultimatum. Did allowing her back in the house so soon come off as more of a small slap on the wrist that she doesnt truly understand its implications. Will there be a next time that she'd push the boundry more, cause your going to be there to help pick up the pieces.
I dunno, maybe im doing too much thinking for you.
