I'm here... I totally get it.. I'm 5'3" 103lbs (lost 26lbs over this... not intentionally either!). I hurt too... ALOT and I don't like one bit of this. I've been D before too. Hated every second of it.... till I met H2.
I am hopeful that I can change myself... I was a great person before, but now will be even better. Hopefully, it will matter down the line. For now, I just keep praying and praying.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)