Strike while the iron is hot

[Lina]

First off, it sounds like it was a good conversation that you guys needed to have, and it's great that you learned some over the weekend. (-:

Second, etymology? Egads, I never thought I'd find someone else who was familiar with the concept! :-D

So she would get pissy about using a word that suggests she's just upset because her uterus is acting up? :-D

And finally...

Let me say it to you, though: why is it so difficult to “work on it?”

I sort of compare it to how difficult it was for me to train myself to not jump into uber-horny mode as soon as I got some physical touch, and really just appreciate what he offered. I guess my H had to first overcome the reluctance to be touched seriously brought about by the fact that I tended to go haywire at it, and THEN sort of "train" himself to be more responsive. My H said that each time something happened, he was sort of cataloging what provoked what type of reaction from him, and how he responded to different approaches at different times, so he could slowly (and intuitively - I think it was difficult for him to actually put into words what he was doing) figure out how to turn his instinctive reactions into more intense (as opposed to cuddly) physical ones.

If it helps with the understanding side any.