I was reading your old thread. You were given great advice from the start here, I wish someone had come in to my first thread and told me not to LRT right away *shakes fist in the air*
Originally Posted By: lovethehub
Mimi..any way to point me in a google direction on that site??
It's po2(.)com or power of two marriage If you check it out let me know how it goes!
All the best to you with school, I probably need to find something extra to do to keep me busy and learning something new/being a life long learner is always great!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I actually did LRT from the start. I emailed MWD and told her I could not afford counseling, gave her my story and said "Can you please tell me if I should LRT or not because I am very confused" Someone (MWD?) emailed back almost immediately (very impressive) and told me that because my H had told me he wanted a D and was completely removed from me, I should absolutely LRT. Hope that helps you.
I am sure it is harder for you to LRT or DB in any way with your H out of town for work. I will have to read your story. Going away early tomorrow-Thursday but I will read it as soon as I can.
Good luck to you! I will check out that site, too. Thanks!
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
I was away all last week with D, and I received numerous texts from H telling me how much he missed me, couldn't wait for me to come home and multiple I love you's. He also said he wanted to go to MC so I guess I am actually in piecing now!
I am so happy with the way things are and I have never felt so strongly about making choices that are healthy for our R. Not that I always did bad things, esp before my A, but I never really thought about whether or not each choice was good for our M or not.
I am choosing to give up alcohol as of today. I don't believe I drink too much, rarely have more than a couple at a time, but I can just tell it bugs H. He comes from a family of alcoholics, it never bothered him before but it does since my A. I agree I drink more frequently since then but have never felt it was an issue for me. Anyway, I could tell he was aggravated last night because I had a few drinks with friends and he thinks I do it too often. I just decided that I am too happy when we are happy to let something unimportant cause stress in our M and I told him that. He said I needed to quit for me, not him, but I told him it is for me because I am doing it for us, it will improve our M even more and that will make me even happier! I feel really good today
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
Wow, lth, that sounds great. I couldn't agree more that we so often make/made decisions without taking the consequences into account. That makes me think of the traditional vows: holy matirmony... – is not by any – to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly – but reverently, discreetly, advisedly and solemnly.
So many of us listen to that and then never give it another thought.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
That is a very encouraging story and proves that there is hope for all of us in similar circumstances. Keep up the positive changes and keep us posted on how it progresses. Best of luck.
Me: 42 WAW: 37 Kids: 0 Separated: 06APR13 M:7 Years, T:10 years WAW states she wants to "move on": 01JUL13 "Courage is the standing army of the soul which keeps it from conquest, pillage, & slavery."
Im so happy things are headed in a positive direction for you two.
I can totally relate to what you said about not taking the marriage into account when making desicions in the past. I am definitely guilty of that.
Hope you have a great week!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
Congrats LRT... very happy to hear another success story!
magic !!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Well, I took my nursing school entrance exam tonight and feel that I have a very slim chance of passing and getting a seat in the program. I studied a lot, bought a book by the company that makes the test and still didn't have a clue what they were talking about for 2/3 of the science questions. Ugh. Aren't they supposed to teach me all of this stuff AFTER I get in????
I will know by Friday but I am fairly certain I failed so now I feel like I am back to square one on what to do with my life. Maybe the universe is telling me to write the book I want to write.
We shall see...H was very supportive when I called him after the test, so that was a plus. Haven't seem him yet but he will be home from work soon.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
