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Great effort Rock,

One of my GAL activities was to get back in shape, I’m not great on Road running but I did a 10k earlier this year 01:07:10 was really please with that considering I weigh around 230 pound (muscle not fat).

For timing I use Polar RS400, it has a separate GPS unit but its unreliable so I stick to using the foot pod for distance measurement. I also keep a check on my heart rate with the chest strap.

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Hey Rock!

I don't want to alarm you, but your D14 is a ticking time bomb. Girls are the big losers in the game when it comes to boys and sex. And girls just don't think anything bad will happen to them. I'm no expert on how to stop it, but am an expert on being 14 and having no supervision. I won't bore you with the details. I hope someone else can weigh in on how to handle this with the sensitivity it deserves.

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I know. I am very worried. But given the dysfunction in my home, I am not sure what to do about it.


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I have a motoactv. Originally I was very happy with it. But, lately I have been disappointed. Battery life is terrible, it takes forever to find the satellite, and I have been having trouble syncing with the website.

It is good enough for now, but I will probably want to replace it next year.


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My W told me yesterday that she has met with her Lawyer and is ready to discuss the terms of a divorce. She wants to talk sometime this weekend.

I am going to ask her to lay out what she wants and then, regardless of what she proposes, I am going to ask for a couple of days to think about it. I think it is too soon to actually start negotiating.

I am glad that she is willing to move forward, but I have a lot of anxiety.


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I hope you have retained a L. And that you are speaking to that lawyer.


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I am going to ask for a couple of days to think about it. I think it is too soon to actually start negotiating.
I would say take as long as you need, these are not the times to rush into any decisions. All I can offer is my moral support, good luck buddy.

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Yes, I was actually the one to file. My W proposal was pretty much right in line with my L recommendation. Looking at it, I really don't see what there is to fight about.

I sent an email to my L asking if we can review it next week. But I can't imagine why I wouldn't accept it.

I guess I am really getting a D. I broke down crying and just feel overwhelmed with grief.

I know that I have no other options. With the way my W is behaving, I can't live like this anymore. Why does it still hurt so much.


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Dear Rock,

It hurts because it isn't what you planned. And there is plenty of advise from people to wait it out. Well after a long while of waiting it out, you get tired. And most likely you have the anxiety with the pain in the chest feeling. I had that for a long time.

Last year I finally took myself to a yoga retreat and learned to meditate. It was intense. But on the 3rd day I realized the pain in my heart/chest was gone. It tries to come back now and then, but I just put in some more time meditating and then I feel better. It give me a feeling like I am in an ocean of calm.

I was also having trouble sleeping, so I got some books that go along with the Buddhist thoughts, and would read a little of one of those books before I went to bed. So my brain had something to chew on besides my situation.

The book that first grabbed me was a book called: "Smile at Fear". My DIL had a pile of books on my counter. I picked up that book and flipped it open and happened to read the passage that related to the title. The whole saying is smile at fear and then step on it. And so I have. I plastered the yoga smile on my face and have stepped through all the scary things involved with getting through this process.

I actually am crying a little now, because I went mentally back to that day. But it was a turning point for me. So I hope this helps you. Save yourself and take care of your precious children.

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Originally Posted By: RockJC
I guess I am really getting a D. I broke down crying and just feel overwhelmed with grief.

I know that I have no other options. With the way my W is behaving, I can't live like this anymore. Why does it still hurt so much.


I can't believe I'm having the same feelings now, but we must overcome this together.

Lanzo

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