I'm sorry you are having such difficulty. OM in your child's life has to be soooo difficult. I haven't got there yet, as H's OW has not entered their lives. I will do everything in my human power to put that off as long as possible.
So, you are very validated with your emotions regarding your D and OM in her life.
This all does suk. But, you are handling the whole thing better than you think.. Living as though you are single is a good idea. And having as little face to face interactions w your W is probably good too.
Hang in there, SP. I am thinking of you. Wish you could GAL in Boston w us tomorrow.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.