Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[TrentC]

I reread my post and it sounded like I was accusing you of doing that to make your husband want to leave.

I'm sorry; that wasn't my intent.

What I meant was, it was the same type of thing that led to his desire to leave last time, so it's not surprising to me that when the problem starts again, he returns to the only thing that seemed to snap you out of it the last time.

I was trying to read through your thread to find out what the deal was with the women that you said was causing trouble last time; whether she turned out to be an OW or not. I remember that some of his co-workers were basically covering for him as well.

I know you are certain that he isn't cheating, but probably every one of us here was certain that their spouse would never be unfaithful right up until they find evidence to the contrary. I know I was.

That's pretty much the reason infidelity is so damaging; that sudden loss of trust and faith in our spouse hurts us in ways we don't expect. I don't want you to obsess over that, or go snooping or anything. I just hope that if it turns out there is another woman that it's not devastating, and that you have a plan for how to deal with it if it does.