Don't come around here no more

[wishing, hoping]

Urg! Had a response all type and my phone went dead!!! Rats!

Just as an FYI I am not fighting full custody. Just primary placement. I am not trying to keep their dad out of their lives but I think they need stability and they should spend the majority of time with me. I do not know this OW nor do I think their dad has their interest at heart. Only his own. I especiallywant primary placement in the school year.

H is back to pushing 50/50 placement again. I have never felt comfortable with that and have never agreed to it. It's too hard on the kids. He is saying unless I agree to 50/50 he will not take on any of the debt for the credit card or the second mortgage. He wants me to agree to the original settlement he sent back in January which I thought was a joke. 50/50 placement, child support at $300 a month less than the state formula allots, no maintenance and I take on the credit card and the second mortgage. And I can take the furniture he allows me to take.

I don't think there is any negotiating with this man. Any time I have said I would like to have "this" he just says no and says I am being unreasonable. It's his way or the highway. I'm going to have to fight for the minimum. Heck I have had to fight this whole time and I don't have anything!!!

I will move out of the house once H agrees to support and maintenance. If I don't have an order he doesn't have to pay me anything. I have looked around and I don't think there is anything to rent that I can afford. I am a bit nervous about this. I want the dog but need to find somewhere that accommodates pets. That usually costs more money. Right now we don't even have $100 in our account.

I am not trying to make excuses. H is the king of manipulation. He is trying to build precidents. I know how things will be once the D is over. I saw him with his ex-wife. I know how nasty and vicious he can be. I have to protect myself. Because H will use every opportunity to get me financially. And if he can, he will take the kids from me.

I have to be on my toes every minute. There is nothing he won't do.

WH