Thank you Corri, You are right when you say all she hears is blah blah blah sex blah blah blah. The trouble is everything else is so good. We are compatible in every other way. I'm smiling here to myself because I love her so much. We had a big argument last night re my seeing the doctor for a vasectomy and I stormed out of the bedroom (see full account elsewhere). When I went back to bed after half an hour she wanted a cuddle which made it all better. Then this morning she cuddled me again. I am hopeful and I will not give up. I too love CeMar. He and I are so similar in many ways. I have been in my SSM a good many more years than he but he has more experience of trying to solve it. I realize I have never really tried to solve it before. The thing that worries me about CeMar is that there is a lot of underlying anger there. I feel it too and I am really trying hard to remove it. I had a couple of mishaps yesterday (complaining loudly how miserable I am feeling) and the worst part was that my S(11) and D(16) were there to witness it. I have started repeating to myself every now and then "I am a calm and loving person". Hopefully I will start to act like one. SuperDave
