I typed out this post yesterday, but I don't think it went through. I hope you can address this issue with the MC. Avoiding arguments and learning the correct way to respond to these u-turns will help you to not fall back into that passive-pit.

And hopefully, the MC will help her to see how she needs to think about how the kids works on her nerves, etc, before she throws out her schedules (and other things) for you to follow whatever she says. She is not able to take care of the kids single-handed for several days before she is calling for help. If he can help the two of you to find a solution for dealing with this, it seems to me it would help you with a lot of other similar areas with her........and her u-turns.

I think you handled it very well. I know it's tempting to teach her to live by the rule she dished out, but you are trying to keep things civilized to get her to the MC.

Btw, I'm sure you noticed how she tries to turn things around to make it sound like it is your fault b/c you refuse to go "there" to help her. Stay firm in keeping your home. She is the one who chose to take the children out of their home and move so far away. But now she expects you to rescue her when she's tired. This is another example of how much you both need solution-based guidance.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!