Your posting said a lot about your h in a way that caused me to feel sad for him.
I think there's probably reason to feel sad for him. His parents are NOT the nurturing, validating type. That shows in their children, and even their grandchildren. Its a contentious family for more than one generation, sad to say.
I do think you are detaching more and more and I'm glad to see that you are keeping your eye on GAL.
Thanks Snodderly! Some days I feel more despair than detachment, its a work in progress I guess.
Hi CP!
It is not fair that you are feeling the consequences of his actions.
Darlin, life ain't fair!! Life just "is", some good and some not so good. Lol, funny, the "fairness" of the whole sitch just doesn't weigh on me. My H has issues, likely worsened by his family, which wasn't fair to him. So, what are ya gonna do? Just gotta keep on keepin' on.
Cheers!!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.