Surviving Separation

[Whiterose]

I think it's too much pressure for him....he literally cannot answer.

I would pretend like the answers are no, if you need to know right now, so make plans for daycare. I would assume your mother in law is coming and can you phone the company about the overdue bill?

Just take control of it and if he has any comments just, nicely, let him know you needed to make the plans and had asked him but had not had any response. If he freaks out let him do so and calmly explain again that you needed to make the plans and had contacted him but had not heard back. And then leave it. Don't engage.

Whether he answers, or not, you need to move on with your life and you do your best to include him but don't beg. If you don't get the answers you need YOU make the decisions best for YOU. he will learn, after a while, that you've taken control so get on the train or be left at the station.

I've had to do that with things around the house and with the boys. He understands that if he does t respond he doesn't get an opinion. I am the one doing the work and getting sh$t done so step up or step outta the way.

And it's hard.....don't get me wrong. You questions yourself. And it's exhausting BUT we need to do this for our kids and ourselves.