Quote: Father_of_Three, I've searched for your username but cannot find any of your threads. I'd like to read about your situation. Can you send me a link?
Quote: "I don't need books to get better, you do, I'm getting better on my own."
That reminds me of something Lina posted, I believe, about how her H was working on *internal* things on his end that weren't obvious to her. Challenge her (gently, lovingly) to open up and share with you what she's been working on.
Quote: I invited her to bed sex-free for a night of cuddling. She got home at 3:00am.
Was she gambling or with friends? Isn't that a bit of an odd thing to do on Valentine's Day (without you)? I'm really sorry she didn't take you up on the offer for cuddles. I'm hearing alarms, but need to read more of your story.
In a nutshell, Aquarian, here is my situation, and my posts that I've started over the past few months:
The Valentine's Day thing started out as a planned event for her. I knew she was stressing about having the "obligation" to have sex on Valentine's Day, so I told her that for Valentine's day I would take our three kids (9S, 8D, 4D) to the monster truck event that was in town here. While we were there, I suggested that she go to bingo and enjoy herself and that we'd meet up after both events were over and have a nice quiet evening together.
10pm turned to midnight and midnight turned to 2 am and I wondered what she was up to. She came home at 3am and said that she decided to go to the riverfront casino because she had won $50 or so at bingo. I didn't argue at all, just said I was glad she was safe and home.
We laid in bed and I hugged her tightly and she then said that she'd "use her hand" on me if I wanted it. I wasn't after sex, just closeness. If she had suggested we make love, I'd have been all for it. But that doesn't come out of her mouth at all anymore.
Was she gambling or with friends? Isn't that a bit of an odd thing to do on Valentine's Day (without you)? I'm really sorry she didn't take you up on the offer for cuddles. I'm hearing alarms, but need to read more of your story. 
