I just telephoned the W to discuss. It seems she still has not processed the idea of being separated. I told her I thought it would be awkward to entertain together being that we're not living together. There were long silences on her part in the conversation while she was trying to think of what to say. Anyway, we decided to cancel.
FY, yes I will make sure we discuss the separation. I'm waiting on my W to have this discussion. She's still processing what she wants to do, and I'm not going to pressure her. Her main deadline, I think, is that she is currently staying at our friend's house while they are out of town on vacation. They come back this weekend. They are very nice, and I'm sure they will offer to let her stay, but she will probably want to move out. So she will have to find herself a place. I don't think she did any looking since she works all day, and I more or less know what she's done after work these days.
All her actions and what she says, tells me that she is confused inside. I wish I could help her, but I think being on this forum for 7 months has taught me that now is the time where I stand on the side and watch. She has to do her own thing.
