Potion away Wonka !! Not using it Anytime soon lol!! I agree with the manipulation aspect. It's why I have called myself out on it. In order to recognize those situations and look a little harder at my actions.
Huge text convo with H. This morning. The gist that he apologizes for blaming me for his behavior in the marriage that it was his trying to meet expectations of what he thought he should be. What his parents were and then resented himself and me. I said it takes two in a marriage and I was constantly trying to be someone I wasn't. It was good
H started seeing new woman literally the same week as dear John letter. Is there such thing as a rebound rebound lol?? I know he did it out of spite and hurt and the inability to be alone or I don't know cuz I am not him lol.
This, H says, is a woman, like me. Xgf was a child. That he likes where his life is going now etc etc. new person (np) knows we Re best friends because h explained at first ( insert eye roll lmfao)
I warned h that xgf was gonna try again for him. H says his friends said same thing. Especially now that he is seeing someone else and told her . I also gave him notice that when he threw away our friendship the last time I had to re evaluate what being friends meant.
Because friends don't do that to friends. His best friend said the same to him advised him to rebuild our relationship. What is the third time rule again? The boy is running out of numbers.
I told h that I had to open up in order to accept his path and the way he is traveling it. That being emotionally an open book is very new to me and that if I ask too much to tell me.
He said for now he is good although. I am staying over on Sunday and h says basically but don't tell anyone. I said kids know where I am and besides that who would I tell? I just say am staying in city. Reason I am staying is we see a concert Sunday late and I have class early Monday. H asked if I would like to switch once a week for my classes. I said I was good
My update. We went into a few other things but he said that the person I am now is the person I was always meant to be. He sees that and trusts that when I say or do things I have no ulterior motive. I like that. Cuz I don't.
. I also gave him notice that when he threw away our friendship the last time I had to re evaluate what being friends meant. 
