2 year A confirmed

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Thanks FY. I like to hear everyone's point of view. Some things aren't for everyone. Like you said rh's h didn't have an a and mine did and still is in contact with her. Actually not really sure what the he!! is going on with them. But like you said rh is an inspiration to all of us to know that some m do work out.

Some days he seems to think so clearly and others it's mush. I plan on sticking to my guns. While I really would like it to work out with h I'm fine if it doesn't. I have come to realize I don't NEED him, I WANT him but not need. I also think it would be better for the kids. What they don't realize is that this is not exactly how it will be post d. Even though they don't say it sometimes I wonder if they still hold out hope.

I know my middle d is upset about it because she has confided in others which I'm glad. I'm sure the others have too I just don't know about it.

We have not really talked since the day he said he didn't know what he wanted which ironically was less than 24 hours after he said he wanted to get out of his mess and work on us.

Still giving him space because frankly there really is nothing to say. I want to move on and he seems to be dragging his feet as far as what he wants. Where do I go from here?

I'm done waiting around for the a to die. It has been going on for over 3 years. She is a nut case so no wonder they found each other. But, I know he hates confrontation and he is going to find it difficult to completely end it and he has never answered me when I told him there could be no contact. I take that as "I'm not giving her up". What do you guys think? It just seems like he is "stuck".

FY I caught up on your thread again. Your wife is definitely depressed. Those are a lot of the same things my h said. Is she on any ADs?

I will post on your thread instead of here. Take care and thanks for commenting.

I really do appreciate everyone's comments and suggestions. They really do help.