Quote: I need a way to refuel my gorgeous LD wife with some real fire in her belly.
Ok SuperDave, this is just my opinion, but I'm afraid one of the only ways to start up "some real fire in her belly" is to *scare* her. She needs to feel like life would be terrible without you. She needs to realize how much she would miss you and cherish the little things or unique things that ONLY you do. I'm not saying to give her an ultimatum or threaten her, but just really start emphasizing your good qualities (especially the ones that attracted her to you in the first place). Without re-reading some of your posts I can't recall if you have young kids at home. If you do, try taking the kids off her hands more often so she has time all by herself for at least a few hours once in a while. Try to be a bit more mysterious too without making her suspect you of having an affair! It's just human nature for us to "wake up" when we fear we may lose someone. I think it was you that posted somewhere that she enjoys ML once it's going... so are you just tired of always being the initiator or is she rejecting you too?
Quote: She sees a book with a title of Sex Starved Marriage and instantly thinks it's filled with cheesy little ideas on how to improve your sex life. She doesn't understand that the book is aimed at understanding one another. Until she does realize what the book is about, I'm afraid she'll never read it.
Father-of-Three, did she actually say that she thinks the book is cheesy ideas for improving your sex life or is that what you're assuming? Have you explained that it isn't and that you'd appreciate it if she could read it for the sake of your marriage? Would she show more interest in it if you read a bit of it before turning the lights out? Perfect opportunity for her ask, "What are you reading?" and voila... it all depends on the tone of your voice and body language but it's up to you to present the book for what it IS, and not what it LOOKS like! You can even pretend to have simply read reviews on it and ask if she'd be into reading it WITH you - it'd be so nice to cuddle up in bed and read a chapter together.
Quote: I might be happier if she and I weren't married anymore rather than continue down this path of constant hurt and rejection. She is still my very best friend, but I can be friends with someone and not be married to them. I can't be in love with someone and not want to be sexual with them. It's just not the way I function. And it's not how she used to function either.
I want so badly to be the object of my wife's affection. But she doesn't see sex as an emotional desire. She still sees sex as a duty that is expected of her, rather than something we share. Unfortunately, I'm afraid it might take me drawing a line in the sand, either by moving on, or not being so friendly, cordial, loving towards her to make her realize what she could be missing out on by being with me.
I suggest you write her a letter or a sweet card and tell her these things. Have you come right out and told her how you're feeling OR has she heard you complaining that you're not having sex often enough?????
Without re-reading some of your posts I can't recall if you have young kids at home. If you do, try taking the kids off her hands more often so she has time all by herself for at least a few hours once in a while. Try to be a bit more mysterious too without making her suspect you of having an affair! 
It's just human nature for us to "wake up" when we fear we may lose someone. I think it was you that posted somewhere that she enjoys ML once it's going... so are you just tired of always being the initiator or is she rejecting you too? 
I suggest you write her a letter or a sweet card and tell her these things. Have you come right out and told her how you're feeling OR has she heard you complaining that you're not having sex often enough????? 
