hairdog, annette, dave36, CeMar, Aquarian, sarahsmiles, CoGal, dunno, I am getting depressed reading all of your sad stories. I started off so hopeful but I'm not getting any positive vibes from you guys. This is what I think about the SSM book. You start to read it and you find you are reading about yourself. Every problem you have is described with examples and you're thinking "Yes. At last a book that will help". Then you get to the solutions chapter. Make lists - yeah yeah. Tell LD what you want - yeah yeah. Change your behaviour - yeah yeah. Let the LD partner have space and time to find their own sex drive - oh yeah? I can't find anything concrete to actually do (other than back off) that I haven't already done a hundred times before to no effect. And nor can you guys. The book promises a solution but where is it? I was going to order the CD set but I don't need to be told to make lists of what I want, I need a way to refuel my gorgeous LD wife with some real fire in her belly.
