FY, thanks for the confidence. I have rethought about asking her to leave, but I keep coming back to the idea that if I did nothing I would have no self-respect, and she probably wouldn't respect me either knowing that I knew and did nothing.
yesterday I went sailing with my buddies as we do in a race every Wed evening. It is the highlight of my week usually -- GAL does work!
One guy I sail with is 30 years old and somewhat of a player. He's always dating a new girl. He has a new girlfriend who he spent the weekend with. On Monday he work up and he had a nasty looking rash down there. He was like, "hey on Friday I didn't have this rash, now after the weekend I have it?" Anyway, it seems he has a staff infection and the physician suggested maybe from not cleaning his gym shorts -- anyway we had a great laugh at his expense.
As far as my sitch, I saw my W briefly when I got home after sailing. She had just put the girls to bed. She did not want to make eye contact with me. We spoke briefly, standing up in the hallway about the kids' schedule over the next few days. I asked her if she wanted to talk now since she was there instead of waiting to the weekend like planned. She said no. I then told her I needed to eat dinner and wished her a goodnight, and she left.
She seemed like a mess internally. My W is pretty good at masking her feelings, but I could tell she was upset. I don't think she's coming back anytime soon, the guilt is probably consuming her right now.
