I'm trying a mental fitness program I call "Confidobics" (I just made that up). It's about becoming more confident and self assured. I seem to let her decide everything I do, and I intend to stop that. Last night, I know she expected to come home to a living room that had some new areas ready to be painted. Instead, she came home to a house with a newly-cleaned-out van in the garage (something I had wanted to do last weekend before she decided we would paint the living room), and a husband who was playing with his daughter. She made one little mention about some touch up painting that was needed, and I told her that the room was too dark to paint by the time she got home, so it would have to wait for the weekend. She agreed.

I have been through counseling before, and have had mixed results. But I know what you mean about paying for the same b/s you were getting before. Sounds like you might need to go to counseling by yourself.