Trying, thats what I was thinking, by not giving her a heads up on her mail this time she just might be a little surprised when she gets it. Of course, its going to her sons address as she hasn't given me her new address. Good grief!!
Not much else I can add here Don't stress and keep on going We're here for you Don't add good grief either to the end of your post, your mantra is now "who cares" not "good grief", lol You can add what you like though, just make it more positive than good grief
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
To Trying,,,, WHO CARES!!! lol...is that better????
Lol yes that's much better
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well, today is 3 months to the day I took my W to the airport for a visit to her Son's home. The last time I seen her and the last time we spoke on the phone. Sure there's been some emails but they mostly are for her needs. Still I find this all strange how everything was seemingly fine even a call from her from the airport before she boarded her flight. I am journaling here and recapping my thoughts and the bottom line is it's still hard to believe where things are now 3 months later. I get nothing from her, no discussion about the sitch, no nothing. It is amazing to me how she hasn't even talked with me on the phone for these 3 months either. Okay, she planned this out for awhile before leaving but to not tell me anything even today is something I dont understand. As I read others sitch's they all have heard from their WAS the reasons one way or another. Me, I haven't heard her say anything. This is why I still can't comprehend what has happened. She does not bring anything up in what little email contact we have. And yet, for whatever reason provided me with a new phone number in a surprise email a couple weeks ago. SO I ask, what am I to take from my sitch? I have re-read all my threads and no matter what is there the fact remains my WAS is not telling me the reasons. Doesn't there have to be a time she will do that? I have stopped initiating contact but belive their is nothing I can do to have her actually talk to me. I wonder if that time will ever come.
2old, my exw and I have not spoken in over a year. Even when we were still under the same roof. My D had some serious issues in school this past year and she never informed me. I don't think waiting for an answer or reason from her is helpful to you. This is a surreal experience but you need to start living your life. The what ifs will affect you. I wanted an answer too but it never came. This is how the WAS move with their plans. It is how they protect themselves for the pain. They are hurting too. So some will shut down. So what next? GAL, stop waiting for answers they may never come. Good luck my friend
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
CAdet, Can you explain what you mean by the TIME element of this is not something to overlook?
I also wonder what this means as well Cadet 2old, I think you should take note of the 2 posters above. Make comments by all means but don't over analyse them in your posts. Think of the positives, she is living miles away from you and yet she is still communicating via email. Even when you've not been sending her emails first, she initiated sending you emails on a few occasions. It is frustrating that you don't know why she left. My H didn't tell me why he left either, but there have been clues. Has she told/nagged you a lot of times about the same thing? Is there anything that you were doing that she didn't like? Is there anything that you weren't doing? These are all clues and should be the 180s that you work on. For instance, I've found out recently that my H was unhappy about our house being untidy and needing a bit of a clean. I have made this one of my 180s, but haven't got very far, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Don't stress and keep on going 